Something New!

10:32 PM

So I've done what I consider the bravest thing I've ever had the guts to do-- hair-wise! I got a haircut and I am so in love! I've wanted to try this style for so long but I never had the courage to. It's kind of a high commitment style that can't easily be reversed. So when I decided it was time to finally try it, I was both nervous and excited! My mixed feelings were heightened by the fact that with my decision, came a halt to my 5 year natural hair journey. 

I have a few words on my transition:
I've watched the natural hair community as we call it, grow over the past years and nothing makes me happier than seeing black women embrace our natural hair. I've gotten questions about why I would make the decision to go back to the "creamy crack" and my answer is quite simple: "I wanted a haircut and did not want to go through the trouble of straightening my kinks daily to achieve my desired look". It is not because I betrayed the natural hair community and my beliefs, and it is certainly not because my love for my blackness stopped or wavered. 
I write about this not because I feel I owe anyone an explanation for perming my hair. But because I can't help but notice a culture of entitlement forming among natural haired girls. And I feel compelled to speak on it. 

The natural hair movement was needed in the black community. We needed an awakening among us to come to the realization that our natural hair is beautiful, that we do not need to alter the natural texture of our hair to look appropriate for grand celebrations, or job interviews. We needed to make the world accept our beauty, the beauty of our hair. We've done that! We're doing that! It's a work in progress and we've come a long way. And I among many of us am very proud of it. 
While this positive movement is happening, I notice a simultaneous growth in separation between naturals and non-naturals. I've seen people bash others for keeping their hair permed. I think it's important for us to understand that being natural is not always a testament of one's acceptance or celebration of their blackness, and conversely perming one's hair doesn't automatically reflect self-hate. 

When I lifted my head from the sink after my perm and looked in the mirror, I felt vulnerable and stripped of something that was a part of my identity. My kinks were gone! I felt as though I stepped out of my comfort zone.

Perhaps that is the point of the natural hair movement! Perhaps what we should aim to accomplish is inspiring black girls to feel beautiful with their natural hair and find comfort in their kinks and curls. What we should focus on is making our little girls feel like perming their hair (if they decide to do so) is more of stepping out of their comfort zone, than the other way around. 
Let's try to not create another problem while solving one. I celebrated my blackness with my fro and I am still celebrating it with my new style. Because my hair does not define my beliefs. 
If your instinct to call me a black queen lessens with this variation of my hair, it is important to evaluate the foundation of your perception and understanding of what makes one a black queen.

Now that I've gotten that off my chest, check out my new look and my outfit below! Clearly, I have been feeling myself!

What kind of hairstyle are you rocking? Is there a hairstyle that you've always wanted to try but have been afraid to do so? Sound off in the comments below! 

As always, thank you for stopping by! 
-Until next time!

Outfit details:
Jumpsuit: Zara
Shoes: Thrifted
Clutch: Gift

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  1. Great post! I agree that the natural hair movement was needed in the black female community. Although it was necessary, I think many black women took it as the main way of expressing their pride and true "blackness," which to me is unfortuante. Yes, it it great (more than great) to embrace your natural self, but choosing to go natural should not and is not the only way to showcase one's pride in their culture and natural state. I think people can perm their hair and still be proud of being of African descent--which you are depicting so nicely. It's an interesting topic, that can be stretched to many different tiers with sub-topics.

    On a lighter note, i LOVE and support your new cut, it's great on you! And as always, your outfit is great! Slayyyy! lol

    1. Thanks Gilianne! I love reading your comments. The topic of hair in the African American community is an extensive one indeed. And you're right, there is more than one way to show pride in our culture. Thanks for your support love!

      We Slay! All day! :)